The holiday season can be joyful, but it can also feel overwhelming, isolating, or simply exhausting. Whether you love this time of year or struggle with it, you have more control over your experience than you may realize. Here are thoughtful, grounded ways to approach the holidays with a healthier mindset and a more positive outlook on your own terms.

1. Give Yourself Permission to Stay Home

You don’t have to attend every gathering, dinner, or event. Choosing to stay home is a valid act of self care. Sometimes a quiet evening with blankets, tea, and a movie is exactly what your mind needs.

2. Take a Drive Into the Mountains

Changing your environment even briefly can shift your mood. A peaceful drive into the mountains offers fresh air, scenic views, and a helpful reset away from the noise of the season.

3. Simply Get Outside

Nature has a grounding effect. A walk in the park, a stroll along a trail, or even sitting on your porch can bring calm and clarity. Fresh air and movement support your emotional well being.

4. Volunteer Your Time

Giving back is one of the most rewarding ways to reconnect with purpose. Consider volunteering at a shelter, community center, animal rescue, or food bank. Helping others can create a meaningful sense of connection and gratitude.

5. Remember You Don’t Have to Participate in Holidays

There is no rule that says you must celebrate. If you need a break from tradition, it is okay to opt out. Choosing what aligns with your mental and emotional needs is empowering.

6. Keep a Journal

Writing down your thoughts, emotions, or intentions can bring clarity. A journal helps you track progress, express feelings safely, and reflect on how you truly want the season to look for you.

7. Move Your Body

Exercise doesn’t have to be intense to be effective. A short workout, yoga session, or gentle stretching can elevate your mood, reduce stress, and support a sense of balance throughout the holidays.

8. Talk to Family or Friends or Don’t

It is perfectly healthy to set boundaries with communication. Reach out when it feels supportive, and step back when you need space. Emotional well being is not measured by how many calls you make.

9. Send Yourself a Gift

Self appreciation matters. Treat yourself the way you would treat someone you care about. A book, candle, spa item, or small experience can be a comforting reminder that you deserve kindness too.

10. Lean Into Your Spiritual Side

Spirituality whatever it looks like for you can offer grounding, comfort, and perspective. Whether through prayer, ritual, gratitude practices, or simply quiet reflection, connect with what brings you peace.

11. Help People and Animals

Acts of compassion do not have to be formal volunteering. Feeding birds, donating pet supplies, checking on a neighbor, or supporting someone quietly can bring a sense of meaning and connection.

12. Practice Meditation

A few minutes of meditation can reduce stress and increase emotional clarity. This practice helps you stay centered, especially when the holidays trigger old patterns or expectations.

If the holidays bring up emotions that feel too heavy to manage alone, reaching out to a trained therapist or mental health professional can make a meaningful difference. As a licensed psychotherapist with over 35 years of experience, I bring a wealth of knowledge and a personalized approach to every session. I can help you develop coping strategies, craft solutions that resonate with you that lead to healthier future, and serve as an additional support system during a challenging holiday season or whenever you are going through a difficulty time or feeling emotional pain.

You don’t have to navigate this time of year by yourself. Support is available, and asking for help is a sign of strength. Don't wait. Contact me today!